Have you ever heard someone say, “That’s not such a big deal”? Maybe they said it to you—or maybe, if we’re honest, you’ve thought it about someone else.

Here’s the thing: 90% of us underestimate what others are going through. And it’s hurting our relationships, our empathy, and sometimes even ourselves.

Picture this:

You’re at your lowest. Maybe you’re broke, heartbroken, or burned out. You feel like you’re barely holding it together. And then, someone—someone you thought would understand—says, “That’s nothing. Just snap out of it.”

Now imagine the flip side:

You see someone overwhelmed about what seems, to you, like a tiny problem. Why can’t they just deal with it?

The truth is, rock bottom looks different for everyone. What feels like a little bump in the road for you might be an insurmountable wall for someone else.

And that’s okay. Because life didn’t give us all the same tools, the same privileges, or the same pain thresholds.

But here’s the kicker: When we judge someone else’s struggles, we’re not just dismissing them—we’re also closing ourselves off to connection.

5-Step Guide to Stop Underestimating Others’ Struggles:

Remember:

Your struggles are valid. So are theirs. Stop comparing, start understanding.

Let’s stop underestimating each other and start building real connections. Share this with someone who might need to hear it today.

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